I have to say that I don’t advocate calling people stupid in my home. My kids know not to use that word. But, when it comes to myself I pull it out every now and again.
What do I mean by getting stuck on stupid?
It’s when you are stuck in downward momentum. It’s when you practice behaviors that you know are not good for you one day,
and then the next day you feel so crappy about yourself that you do it all over again to, ostensibly, make yourself feel better. Then you wake up the next day and lather, rinse, repeat. You get the ide
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Anonymous
This can be any behavior… eating, drinking, smoking, shopping, procrastinating, or combination thereof… whatever your drug of choice happens to be. It can be a bad relationship or a bad job. A lot of self flagellation and berating usually goes with it.
My own drugs of choice are varied. Some are relational, some have to do with what I put into my body, and, let me tell you, I am the queen of berating myself. I go down the rabbit hole pretty much in that order.
This happens to me less and less as the years go by. And I have learned how to pull myself out of it. But, some people live stuck on stupid and never get shifted in the opposite direction. They live their lives stuck.
How do you get out of it?
1. Realize you are stuck.
This seems obvious, but it is a crucial step. I know a lot of people who are stuck and have absolutely no idea. Really look at your habits. What is holding you back? Is your life moving forward towards something that truly excites you? Is your life moving at all? Are you the best you can possibly be? If not, you are probably holding on to something that is keeping you where you are.
2. Get focused.
Get focused on how brilliant your life would be if you changed these habits. Picture it constantly. Focus solely in that direction.
It’s well known that we move in the direction we think. We move with our thoughts. If it’s food, for example, picture the energy and self confidence you would have in your new healthy, fit body. If it’s procrastination, think about how empowered you would feel at the end of each day, and the sense of accomplishment you would feel (not to mention the reduction of stress). If it’s a relationship, think how free you would ultimately feel if you ended it and moved on to something really soul satisfying.
3. Get inspiration.
Fill your head with inspiration from a wide variety of sources.
Read books, watch You Tube, find people who inspire you to change. Find people who have already done it and do what they did. Fill yourself with positive models and you will feel you can do it too. Many people have walked the path already so follow in their footsteps.
4. Let go of what no longer serves you.
I could write an entire post on this one. It’s a bitch. It’s a bitch because there may be some pain involved here and we hate discomfort.
There is a reason why you are not succeeding. There is a reason why you have not already changed your momentum. You want to live the life you know you were destined for, but you want to keep your unproductive behavior at the same time.
Tony Robbins calls it resolving inner conflicts. For example, if you want to be healthy, fit and vibrant, but you also want to keep eating a steady diet of sugar and fat and don’t really want to work out very often… you have a problem. If you want a fantastic, romantic, satisfying relationship, but don’t want to let go of the old safe one that doesn’t work… you have a problem.
You have to make a choice. What do you want? How badly do you want it?
I challenge you today to write down 2 things.
1. What do you want from life? Where would you like to be in a year? Be very specific. Make a list.
2. Next make a list of the things that are holding you back. Be brutal. Be thorough. There may be things you haven’t thought of before.
Now you have some clear choices. Are the habits in #2 so great that you are willing to give up the amazing benefits in #1?
The choice is all yours. You can start to change your momentum today. Right this minute.
Get stuck on brilliant. Get stuck on vibrant. Get stuck on the best you were meant to be.
Peace and love,